Everytime I think the world is just about to stop spinning,another season ends. Reminding me(us) that not only the world around us, but we too ourselves are constantly changing. We are growing... in and out of love,friendships,and habits. learning lessons that seem to reinvent us and finding ground in our own reassurance. The truth is... as much as you think you know yourself, YOU PROBABLY DONT!. In psychology Maslow suggests that in order to know ourselves or to be "self actualized" we must first meet needs on a hiearchy begining with the very basics: food and water. Next he suggusts saftey needs must be met:security of resources. After saftey, in my opinion is were most of us get lost. The third step towards self-actualization is the need for love and belonging. In my previous blogs I have gone on and on about our deficiency of adequate love. And it is here, at this point in the hiearchy where the dominoes begin to fall. When we are not fed emotionally it is nearly impossible to function properly in other areas of our lives. Although, yes, life will go on, one can never be complete without love. We must get back to love! The fourth step is ESTEEM. to satisfy this level one must have achevement in confidence,respect of and by others, and most importantly SELF-ESTEEM.
Because so many of us as women are caught in this hiearcy, somewhere between love and self esteem. We have gotten lost!. We have lost sight of who we are and who we are meant to be. We have taken up the faces of commercially branded women.We have put on their hair, epitomized their bodies, and we wear their attidudes. Parading them all around as if they were our own original idea. When I look around.. YOU ALL LOOK ALIKE TO ME!! I would rather be......single, brownskin,34-24-30(measurements),medium lengthed haired, a virgin, a bit dependent,and all around a little dysfunctional than to pretend to be anything else. I would Rather Be VANESSA!
to elaborate on a status from my good friend Cecilia: You learn new things about yourself everyday... therefore it may truely take a lifetime to be self actualized. Why waste that precious time being someone else....BE YOURSELF!!
